Frequently Asked Questions
Q1: Do you justify abuse or harmful behavior?
No. Harm and abuse are never justified, minimized, or excused in my work. Accountability and emotional responsibility are non-negotiable standards here.
Q2: Do you blame parents or adult children for estrangement?
No. Estrangement is not about blame. It’s about understanding how and why relationships break down, often through misunderstanding, pain, and lack of tools, and what is required to repair them.
Q3: What standards do you expect parents to hold?
This work helps parents develop standards around how they communicate and respond during difficult moments, with steadiness, care, and self-awareness, especially when conversations feel emotionally charged or uncertain.
Q4: Do adult children have responsibility in healing as well?
Yes. Healing requires personal agency. Adult children are responsible for their own healing and growth, independent of their parents’ actions.
Cut-off and avoidance may bring short-term relief, but they are not the same as healing. Long-term growth comes from learning how to process pain rather than permanently disengaging from it.
Cut-off and avoidance may bring short-term relief, but they are not the same as healing. Long-term growth comes from learning how to process pain rather than permanently disengaging from it.
Q5: What does accountability mean in your work?
Accountability means acknowledging impact without defensiveness, taking responsibility without self-hatred, and changing patterns going forward. It does not mean carrying all the blame, and it does not remove responsibility from others in their healing as well.
Q6: Is this work about boundaries?
I focus on standards, not boundaries. Standards reflect how we choose to show up, communicate, and behave, regardless of how others respond.
Q7: What role does forgiveness play in your work?
Forgiveness is not denial or submission. It is the ability to hold compassion without abandoning truth, responsibility, or self-respect.
Q8: Can your work help if my child is no contact?
Yes. This work helps parents understand what commonly contributes to no contact — including emotional pain, relational patterns, and broader societal influences, and what is within their control to address.
I teach parents how to understand their child’s perspective, recognize what language is more likely to land rather than escalate defensiveness, and approach the situation with clarity and steadiness instead of fear, urgency, guilt, or pressure. This creates the conditions that support repair rather than pushing the door further closed.
I teach parents how to understand their child’s perspective, recognize what language is more likely to land rather than escalate defensiveness, and approach the situation with clarity and steadiness instead of fear, urgency, guilt, or pressure. This creates the conditions that support repair rather than pushing the door further closed.
Q9: Who should not work with you?
This work is not a fit for anyone looking for quick fixes, validation without reflection, or language to control outcomes. It’s designed for those willing to engage honestly, grow emotionally, and approach repair with sincerity rather than strategy.
I teach parents how to understand their child’s perspective, recognize what language is more likely to land rather than escalate defensiveness, and approach the situation with clarity and steadiness instead of fear, urgency, guilt, or pressure. This creates the conditions that support repair rather than pushing the door further closed.
Q10: How do I know if this work is right for me?
If you’re open to learning, willing to reflect honestly, and want guidance on how to approach your child with steadiness, understanding, and integrity, this work will feel supportive.
I teach parents how to understand their child’s perspective, recognize what language is more likely to land rather than escalate defensiveness, and approach the situation with clarity and steadiness instead of fear, urgency, guilt, or pressure. This creates the conditions that support repair rather than pushing the door further closed.